I was thinking (on my traffic heavy ride home) about some videos and blogs that I have seen about people treating themselves to lovely things, but not using them because they are scared of “ruining” them. My friends and I have talked about this as well. I have suffered this affliction myself. Now that I have the means to actually get an item on my wish list, it has been a dilemma about wanting to use AND preserve my precious goods.
A prime example are my lovely pink suede loafers. I saved and consigned to buy them. I researched caring for the suede… I mean they are pink suede for goodness sakes! I ordered them and purchased suede protection spray & cleaning kit. When I finally got the box in the mail last year, I took them out of the box and tried them on again in my house and sprayed them with the protection spray. Then, I put them back in the dust bags and box and tucked them safely in my closet. A few months later after having my girlfriends ask about them several times and me lovingly describing them to a colleague, I put the shoes on for a day of work. I found myself constantly checking them to see if I got a mark on them….Like every time I sat at my desk! I had such anxiety all day, that upon arriving home that night I put them back into the dust bags and box and into my closet. This happened several times until ultimately I was able to overcome this (FINALLY!) and am wearing them right now as I type.
Seriously! I am a grown, educated woman and I cannot escape the fear of messing up the stuff that I saved and planned for…. ugh. I felt the same way when I got my lovely Chanel Jumbo… that lovely thing stayed in the safety of its dust bag on the handbag shelf for way longer than it should have…
I have read posts among my “friends” in handbag groups and I am not alone! I think my personal issue was that I want to take care of my nice stuff (clothes, shoes, handbags, home decor) because I spent my hard-earned money on it. I also think there is so much pressure to things to be in pristine condition if I later decide that it is no longer for me and want to sell it. Part if it is my own fault, because I too look for pre-loved items in excellent condition.
Then I remember that I bought those things because they caught my eye and I could not stop thinking about it… and when I use them it makes me happy, confident and happy. I have decided that I would use my fashion each week… so I can enjoy the things I worked so hard to get…. DON’T BE SCARED…. ENJOY YOUR LOVELY ITEMS!
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