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The Fear of Using Our Nice Things…

Hi Everyone-

I was thinking (on my traffic heavy ride home) about some videos and blogs that I have seen about people treating themselves to lovely things, but not using them because they are scared of “ruining” them. My friends and I have talked about this as well. I have suffered this affliction myself. Now that I have the means to actually get an item on my wish list, it has been a dilemma about wanting to use AND preserve my precious goods.

A prime example are my lovely pink suede loafers. I saved and consigned to buy them. I researched caring for the suede… I mean they are pink suede for goodness sakes! I ordered them and purchased suede protection spray & cleaning kit. When I finally got the box in the mail last year, I took them out of the box and tried them on again in my house and sprayed them with the protection spray. Then, I put them back in the dust bags and box and tucked them safely in my closet. A few months later after having my girlfriends ask about them several times and me lovingly describing them to a colleague, I put the shoes on for a day of work. I found myself constantly checking them to see if I got a mark on them….Like every time I sat at my desk! I had such anxiety all day, that upon arriving home that night I put them back into the dust bags and box and into my closet. This happened several times until ultimately I was able to overcome this (FINALLY!) and am wearing them right now as I type.

Gucci Marmont in blush pink suede 
Gucci Pink Suede GG Marmont Loafer Heels

 

Seriously! I am a grown, educated woman and I cannot escape the fear of messing up the stuff that I saved and planned for…. ugh. I felt the same way when I got my lovely Chanel Jumbo… that lovely thing stayed in the safety of its dust bag on the handbag shelf for way longer than it should have…

Jumbo in Caviar Navy with LGHW

 Making sure this lovely is in my rotation! 

I have read posts among my “friends” in handbag groups and I am not alone! I think my personal issue was that I want to take care of my nice stuff (clothes, shoes, handbags, home decor) because I spent my hard-earned money on it. I also think there is so much pressure to things to be in pristine condition if I later decide that it is no longer for me and want to sell it. Part if it is my own fault, because I too look for pre-loved items in excellent condition.

Then I remember that I bought those things because they caught my eye and I could not stop thinking about it… and when I use them it makes me happy, confident and happy. I have decided that I would use my fashion each week… so I can enjoy the things I worked so hard to get…. DON’T BE SCARED…. ENJOY YOUR LOVELY ITEMS!

Please share your thoughts and stories in the comments.

Thanks for reading! Feel free to share with someone who might enjoy this!

XOXO, Dawn

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My Experience in Hermes

Hermes-Palo Alto CA

Everyday in my work, I advocate for equity and social justice.  Then I go out in the world and hope to experience it in my own life.  I have been in love with fashion since I was young and it has blossomed now that I am an adult and can enjoy shopping for the stuff I used to only see in magazines.  Then I went into the Palo Alto, CA Hermes store (pictured above)…

It was a Friday, so I had nice work appropriate dark jeans on, cashmere sweater, Tory Burch ruffle sneakers and my Chanel Jumbo bag.  Not that appearance should matter, but I was presentable with a touch of Luxe. I went in to look mainly at scarves, scarf ring (because I am fancy like that) and to see if they had any watch bands to fancy up my Apple Watch.  I walked in with a smile on my face and said hello to an associate who replied but kept walking by.  I looked for quite a while at the cases with scarves, twillys & scarf rings but no one came over.  I was pretty much a sure sale, yet no one came over.  I took one loop of the store looking at items and one other associate said hi to me, but he too kept walking.  I went back and stood by another case.  There were only 2 other people in the shop that didn’t work there and about 5-6 people who worked there.  Crickets. 

So I left and went to Neiman Marcus where my lovely associate at Chanel greeted me and treated me with kindness and I spend my hard-earned money with him. Kindness and respect are everything with me… I have been in retail and know how a customer should be treated. Apparently I didn’t look like I could/should buy anything from their store.  So I will possibly make my Hermes purchase online and continue to shop at the Luxe shops that respect me no matter how they judge my appearance. I have watched some of my favorite You Tubers talk about the stress to get a Berkin or Kelly in the Paris store and are judged by the associate to be selected for a bag.  It is apparently true for many other situations in Hermes on any continent.  It’s just sad. Guess I will stick with my favorites: Chanel, Gucci, Dior and LV.  I have had EXCELLENT service there which is why they are part of my collection. 

Thanks for reading! XO, Dawn

 

 

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